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Sabtu, 10 Maret 2012

A Discussion of Attitude and Motivation

By: Lindelle Jones
 
There are absolutely thousands and thousands of self help books, self help videos, audio CDs, and self-help websites available to the average consumer. All of them claiming the secret knowledge of how to make you happier, how to make you more successful, how to make you richer; you ever wonder with all these things out there why we don't all live in a Utopian society? To make change happen, for real, within your own personal life, takes time and commitment. You must be focused and have the will-power to follow through.

Did you know that unsuccessful people normally talk about the negative influences that seemingly shadow their existence? The doom and gloom, the fear and loathing; all this negativity must really pile up - and it does!

The biggest difference between successful people and unsuccessful people is their attitude toward life. Successful people will find a positive outlook, while unsuccessful people will dwell on the negative. These attitudes affect everything, especially the lives of their creators!

Successful people will learn from their failures, while unsuccessful people make excuses as to why they weren't triumphant. Successful people take a negative situation and turn it into a positive reality. Negative people tend to spiral, seemingly out of control. Unsuccessful people use words like: I can't, if only, and excuses that kill any chance they have at success.

So are unsuccessful people just born that way? Of course not! It is a learned behaviour and has everything to do with attitude and a lack of motivation. Their attitudes keep them from being motivated and the cycle continues. The secret to breaking this cycle is taking a new perspective on life and changing the negative attitude to a positive outlook. Once this has happened, a person can truly start to find motivation, and when motivated - drastic changes will take effect.

Motivation leads us toward success. Sure there may be stumbling blocks along the way, but that's why a change in attitude is so important. With a positive attitude a person has the ability to pick themselves up, dust themselves off, figure out their mistake and learn something. A negative situation can be turned into positive application, as long as you have the right attitude.

The truth is that the secret to changing one's self begins within one's self. All these self help gurus can lead you down the path, but ultimately it is your choice to make. If you are willing to use diligence, a positive attitude, and search deep inside for that intrinsic motivation, then you are on your way to a more positive life. The change depends on you though, and you have to stick with it.

Your Biggest Mistake Isn’t Asking What Mistake You’re Making (The View Point Summary Of Failing Forward from Dr. John C.Maxwell)

Success doesn’t mean avoiding failure. All of us fail. As we travel, we all hit potholes, take wrong turns, or forget to check the radiator. The only person who avoids failure altogether is the person who never leaves his/her driveway. So the real issue is not whether you’re going to fail. It’s whether you’re going to fail Successfully (profiting from your failure). The difference between greatness and mediocrity is often how an individual views mistakes. If you want to continue on the success journey, you need to learn to fail forward.
So, when failure gets you by the heart. Let’s face it. Failure can be very painful, sometimes physically and more often emotionally. Seeing part of your vision fall flat really hurts. And if people heap ridicule on top of your hurt feelings, you feel even worse. The first important step in weathering failure is learning to not personalize it – making sure you know that your failure doesn’t make you a failure. But there’s more to it than that. For many people the pain of failure leads to fear of failure. And they become like the person who says, “I’m too old to cry, but it hurts too much to laugh.” That’s when many people stuck in the fear cycle. And if fear overcomes you, it’s almost impossible to fail forward.
If you can take action and keep making mistakes, you gain experience. That experience eventually brings competence, and you make fewer mistakes. As a result, your fear becomes less paralyzing. But the whole cycle-breaking process starts with action. You must act your way into feeling, not wait for positive emotions to carry you forward.
To leave the road of continual failure, a person must first utter the three most difficult words to say: “I Was Wrong“. He/she has to open his/her eyes, admit his/her mistakes, and accept complete responsibility for his current wrong actions and attitudes. Every failure you experience is a fork in the road. It’s an opportunity to take the right action, learn from your mistakes, and begin again. Mistakes really do pave the road to achievement. Here is an acronym that was created by Dr. John C. Maxwell to help us keep mistakes in perspective. Mistakes are ...................

Messages that give us feedback about life.
Interruptions that should cause us to reflect and think.
Signposts that direct us to the right path.
Tests that push us toward greater maturity.
Awakenings that keep us in the game mentally.
Keys that we can use to unlock the next door of opportunity.
Explorations that let us journey where we’ve never been before.
Statements about our development and progress.

Successful people don’t let failure go their heads. Instead of dwelling on the negative consequences of failure, thinking of what might have been and how things haven’t worked out, they focus on the rewards of success. Learning from their mistakes and thinking about how they can improve themselves and their situations. “Try to see failure as a learning experience today”.
No matter how difficult your problems were, the key to overcoming them is in changing yourself. That in itself is a process, and it begins with a desire to be teachable. From this moment on, make a commitment to do whatever it takes to Fail Forwad. “ Maintain a teachable attitude in everything you do today”.

Right To Lead

The key to becoming an effective Leader is not to focus on making other people to follow, but on making yourself the kind person they want to follow.  You must become someone others can trust to take them where they want to go.
As you prepare yourself to become a better leader, use the following guidelines to help you grow:
  • Let Go Of Your Ego
  • Become A Good Follower First
  • Build Positive Relationships
  • Work With Excellence
  • Rely on Discipline, Not Emotion
  • Make Adding Value Your Goal
  • Give Your Power Away
So, what gives a man or woman the Right To Lead?
It certainly isn’t gained by election or appointment. Having position, title, rank, or degrees doesn’t qualify anyone to lead other people. And ability doesn’t come automatically from age or experience, either. The Right To Lead can only be earned and that takes time. Leadership isn’t learned or learned in a moment.

A Leader knows the way,
goes the way, and shows the way.
-John C. Maxwell

Urgyen Rinchen Sim
Founding Partner of The John Maxwell Team
sim@johnmaxwellgroup.com
http://johnmaxwellgroup.com/urgyenrinchensim

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Mr. Sim (Founder's Circle Member of John Maxwell Team) & Mr. Andrie Wongso (No. 1 Motivator in Indonesia)

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7 Countermeasures To Take When You And Your Leadership Are Demonized - Article by Brent Filson

Most organizations abound with acolytes for the status quo. The status quo is simply the existing state of an organization. What’s wrong with the status quo? A great deal. In fact, the status quo of any organization is usually wrong.
The trouble with the status quo isn’t that it gets poor results. After all, if you know you’re getting poor results, you can start taking steps to turn them into good results.
The trouble with the status quo is that it gets mediocre results but represents them as good results. And poor results are less harmful to an organization than mediocre results misrepresented as good results.

The acolytes may worship at a lot of altars: the funding of inefficient, wasteful, pet programs; the misplaced craving of the employees to bring back the “good ole days”; the people’s championing a poisonous culture of unrealistic entitlements. And so on.
If you start demolishing the altars or even questioning the status quo’s orthodoxy, the acolytes may very well resort to a common status quo tactic that throws most leaders off balance: They’ll demonize you.
Note I don’t say “criticize,” I say “demonize.” Surely you’ll be criticized. But demonization involves an attack of another order of magnitude. It’s through demonizing that the status quo pulls out all stops. Understanding this and executing the right countermeasures can be vital to the short and long term success of your leadership.
First, let’s look at demonization itself. Throughout history, demonization of people, groups of people, and even nations has involved characterizing them as evil or less than human, e.g., the attitudes and practices of some whites towards Black people in the period 1865-1965, resulting in widespread lynching.
One purpose of the demonization of individuals is to divert attention from their arguments by discrediting them personally. Proving that they are Fascists, Communists, Racists, Religious Nuts or some other despised category can be particularly effective not only in undermining individuals with controversial views, but in isolating them from public support. Furthermore, the evil/subhuman traits that the demonizers try to pin on people can open the way for truly horrendous attacks.
Now let’s look at how demonization plays out in a lot of organizations. The status quo usually resorts to demonization when its first line of attack, passive resistence, fails. Passive resistence is the status quo’s game. It plays it first, it plays it often, and it plays it well. It plays it anytime it feels threatened. The game may be passive, but it’s outcomes are anything but. What can be more relentlessly active than when you challenge walking people to run … but they keep on walking — and swear they are running? Yet the status quo doesn’t always succeed in the passive resistence game; and that’s when it may turn to demonization.
Demonization as accomplished by the organizational status quo does not engage in rational criticisms of what you are doing but an attack on who you are. There’s little or no truth to what is being said. Truth has nothing to do with the impulse behind the attacks. Outright survival of the status quo at all costs is the impulse.
“He’s ruining the organization.”
“She’s got to be replaced.”
“He doesn’t know what he’s doing.”
“She’ll cause us to lose our jobs.”
And worse.
Clearly, if you don’t deal with the demonization, it could destroy your effectiveness and even result in your being replaced.
Here are 7 countermeasures to demonization.
1. Look inwardly.
When you are being demonized, you must get in touch with the best of who you are. Delve into the resources of your own character: patience, understanding, courage, and persistence. They are countermeasures to demonization. You have such assets in abundance. Find them and draw them out so they can be expressed fully. In fact, being on the receiving end of demonization gives you an opportunity to clarify and strengthen those inherent resources.
2. Act outwardly.
Keep your leadership bearing. Be composed and considerate. The adage “Showing up is 90 percent of winning” applies here. Face the people who are demonizing you. For instance, you might walk up to a group of them who obviously are bad mouthing you to one another and enter into a pleasant conversation with them. You might show up (briefly, please) at one of their after-work haunts and have a social interaction with a few of them. You might go to their work sites or be at the employee gate and greet them in a friendly way. At those times, you don’t have to say anything to defend yourself against demonization. Demonization needs illusion to survive. You are not the person the status quo is trying to make you out to be. You puncture that illusion by being with them and being genuinely interested in their concerns and being actively helpful.
However, be judicious in your interactions with them. Just as you can error when being demonized by staying away from them, you can also error by being with them too much, prompting them to think you’re a pest.
3. Be friendly.
When we are friendly in the face of demonizing attacks, we act as a kind of voltage stabilizer for the power surges of emotions that demonization activates.
Clearly, being demonized is not pleasant; but leaders who respond by losing control, getting angry and lashing back at the people who are engaged in it are playing into the hands of the status quo, which will inevitably point out that such behavior justifies their assertions.
People respond more openly and positively to friendliness. By being friendly, we model good interactions, bringing the future into the present. We make real issues relevant factors, not the patently false issues that demonization creates.
With friendliness, we increase the chance that others who are not demonizing us will join our cause. Friendliness is fire prevention equipment against your burning bridges behind you. An opponent may seem to be your opponent today but in the future you may need him to be your partner in implementing changes.
Getting results through friendliness can take a lot less energy than getting results through coercion and intimidation. Friendliness isn’t an absolute necessity in leadership. I’ve seen great leaders who responded to being demonized by acting out as terrific curmudgeons. It’s just that unfriendly leaders have to go through a lot more trouble getting people motivated.
4. Be forceful — benevolently.
Don’t accept rude talk and/or insulting behavior. But in not accepting it, be forceful in a kind and moderate way. For instance, an executive told me: “At our annual sales meeting, the sales people were angry over the layoffs of many of their colleagues. Four senior executives, colleagues of mine, who had forced the layoffs, did not show up for the social events at the meeting, not wanting to face the people’s anger. But I felt I had to be there. I remember a bunch of really ticked off sales people were at the bar of the hotel, drinking and just verbally ripping the senior management to pieces. I took a deep breath and went over among them. I ordered a drink and tried to have a friendly chat. A couple of them started abusing the senior executives to my face, but I wouldn’t stand for it. I looked them in the eye, I spoke softly; I showed I was going to be pleasant but not put up with bad behavior or insulting talk. Of course, I didn’t change their attitudes much, at least at that bar; but a few of them told me later they really respected me for just going into the lion’s den.”
5. Get results.
One of the most effective countermeasure measures against demonization is simply to get results. You’re a leader. You do nothing more important than get results; and when you set the organization on track for getting more results faster, continually, you’ll find that demonization will likely dry up and blow away.
6. Keep a sense of humor.
Make sure you do it not at the expense of others but of yourself. Self-deprecating humor can take the steam out of a lot of what demonization offers.
7. Get cause leaders.
This incorporates the first 6 points. If you manifest your inner strengths, take the right action, keep your leadership bearing, don’t accept abusive talk or behavior, get great results, and keep yourself of humor, you likely will have people take up your cause against the demonization. Their defense is usually far better than any defense you could personally mount.
Mind you, the acolytes of the status quo are, for the most part, good, well-meaning people, people who have loved ones in their lives. Their engaging in demonization may come from a sincere intention to protect themselves and keep their loved ones secure. The fact they are good people is all the more reason for you to be friendly, open, and considerate in the face of a demonizing attack.
In most cases, you can weather being demonized — and even become more effective in your leadership — as long as you institute these countermeasures. In the end, you may find that at least some the people who demonize eventually become your ardent cause leaders. The flipside of demonization is acclaim

Jumat, 09 Maret 2012

The Arenas of Success - Article by Chris Widener

"The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena; whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, and spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement; and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly." Theodore Roosevelt
  1. I Am - the Arena of Values
  2. I Should – the Arena of Responsibility
  3. I Could - the Arena of Possibility
  4. I Would - the Arena of Negotiation
  5. I Want To - the Arena of Vision
  6. I Will - the Arena of Dedication
  7. I Do - the Arena of Accomplishment

In this article we are going to be looking at the “Arenas” that every person, organization, or business can operate out of. They are Values, Responsibility, Possibility, Negotiation, Vision, Dedication, and Accomplishment. The degree of our success is directly related to the degree in which we excel in and balance these arenas. As you go through each segment, think practically, because these are intended to be more than intellectual ideas. They are intended to help you solidify them into your life and turn your potential into performance. Though this article is specific to business and industry, the principles here are easily translated into personal application.
I Am - The Arena of Values.
Every person, organization and business has values. They may not know what they are, or they may not be able to articulate what they are, but they have them. The values of a business are what they believe in. What do they think is important? What do they hold as dear to the organization? Customer satisfaction is a simple value that a business may hold, for example. What a company values will affect the way the business runs and the employees act and work, so it is important to know what your business values are. Here are some questions for you to ask. I would encourage you to involve as many top-level people in this process as possible, as well as others, even down to the lowest levels of the organization. What do we think is important? What do we hope to accomplish? What do we believe in as we go about our work? Another item to deal with is Values Dissonance. That is when you state your values and find that they are not in action in the company. This then, takes teamwork and leadership to make sure that everybody is on the same page with your corporate values. The first step in a successful organization, or for your own life for that matter, is to determine your values. I would encourage you to spend some time on this if you haven’t already. And if you have, continue to make sure that everybody in the organization knows and believes in them.
Two excellent books on the subject are Leadership Jazz, and Leadership Is An Art, both by Max DuPree. Is there clear indication in your place or work that you are operating in the Arena of Values? Can you say without a doubt that “I Am,” or “We Are”? Hopefully you can, and if not, you can be, with a little work. 

I Should – The Arena of Responsibility
I understand that responsibility is in some people’s minds a four-letter word, but not in those who want to achieve true, lasting success that benefits not only themselves, but a great number of people around them. Those who would lead the way to accomplishment must also understand that they have responsibilities. And the man or woman of honor, integrity, and success, lives up to those responsibilities. So what are these responsibilities that we must live by? While I want to encourage you to think about them specifically for your own life and business, there are a few that I believe are for all of us.
To be a person and company of high integrity.
Ultimately, we are only a success to the degree that we are honorable people. This means that we are honest, hard working, and forthright. I don’t think it matters how much money one accumulates if the are not a person of integrity.

To live by the “golden rule.”
And the golden rule isn’t what one of my best friends grew up thinking it was: He who has the gold, makes the rules! No, it is that we will treat others as we want to and expect to be treated.

To our families.
Regardless of the work we do, it is of utmost importance that our families sit atop the priority list. Sometimes I think of all the people I help and work so hard for day by day and realize that none of them will be at my side when I breathe my last breath. My wife and children will fill those spots. Therefore, they get the most from me. I owe it to them. They are important to me and it is my responsibility to be there for them, no matter what my opportunities are elsewhere.

To give to charity.
The more you hear from me, the more you will realize that I am big on the idea of charity. I think one of the things that rounds us out as healthy, successful people is to give away money, time, and possessions, free of all strings. Simply give it away to a cause that you believe in. Make it big. Make it a sacrifice. Instead of a $10 check every now and then, put it into your budget to give away a certain amount every month. At first you will think it is impossible but it will come around. And one of the great benefits to this is that at the end of your life, you will be able to look back and see the difference you have made.
These are just a few areas, but they are the umbrellas that cover the rest of our lives. If we get these right, we are 95% there.

I Could – The Arena of Possibility
Now we cover the arena of possibility.
It seems to me that many businesses, and schools and organizations often get so caught up in the day to day that they lose their zest for life. They get the nose to the grindstone, and may even be doing important work, but they forget to dream. They forget to think of what could be. (for more on achieving your dreams, see my article “Dare to Dream Again) How is your business in the arena of possibility? What would happen if at your next staff meeting, whether you have 30 people or it’s just you and your partner, you asked the question “What could we really do if we put it all together? If we really stretched ourselves as far as we could?” Or how about “What are the possibilities for this business to really do something great or dynamic?” I think that you would probably be astounded at what you would hear. People have great ideas, dreams, and possibilities inside of them. They just need someone to stop the treadmill and ask the question, surrounded by an atmosphere of acceptance.
Here are some areas to think about possibilities in:
The office atmosphere
Customer relations
Customer satisfaction
Increased sales
Increased profit
Community service projects


I Would – the Arena of Negotiation
After you have recognized your corporate values, understood your responsibilities and then had your staff possibilities session, there comes a time of reflection upon those possibilities. Every possibility has a cost associated with it. At this point an organization not only says “we could” but they also need to determine what the cost will be and whether or not the successful implementation of the possibility is worth the cost. This is the arena of negotiation. It isn’t negotiation in the traditional sense of the word, such as negotiating a price with a client or vendor, but is primarily an internal negotiation. This is where you ask qualifying questions. “I would if…”

If this is to come about, what will the cost be? Is it worth it? If this comes about, what will the ramifications be in other areas of my business? What other adjustments would have to be made, and are they worth it? What would the reward have to be in order for me to pursue this possibility? How long will it take me to reach this possibility? In light of that, do I want to readjust the organization for that period of time? In other words, would the outcome be worth it? What trade-offs will I have to make with my time, finances, staff, customers, or family? Are these trade-offs worth it?
These are all examples of negotiation questions. You are negotiating internally, with yourself or your staff.
For example, you may find that your possibilities include substantially more profit for an extra five hours of your time per week. But your family life may be such that it wouldn’t be the overall best situation for you to increase your workload five more hours a week at this point in your life. Perhaps it is still a possibility, but should be delayed for a year or two You may see the possibility of giving better customer service by adding two new employees, to bring the ratio of employees to customers down. What would the cost be? What would the reward be? Perhaps you will find out that the reward, be it financial or otherwise, is more than sufficient in your mind to spur you on to pursue the possibility. You may want to get a comprehensive view of your current customers’ satisfaction. There is any number of ways to go about obtaining that information. Giving a response card to each person that visits. Calling past customers on the phone. Visiting each client personally. What are the costs of these? Which ones are right for you and your staff at the current time? Every possibility has a cost associated with it. Take some time this week to measure the costs of your possibilities. Then, when you find those that are good for you – go for it! 

I Want To – The Arena of Vision
Sometimes one of the best ways to determine what you or your company or organization should do is what you want to do! Two sections back we asked what the possibilities were for your business. We decided to dream a little. Now, of those possibilities, what ones would you really like to do? The reason for this is simple:
Because those ideas that stir our passions for excellence become things that we can easily “see.” They can become our “vision.” Vision is a word that is used a lot in leadership development these days, and for a good reason. In order for something to happen, someone has to first see it happening long before it actually does. Sure, there are lots of things you could do (possibilities), but what do you want to do? What can you see yourself doing? If money, and time, were no object; if you knew that you couldn’t fail at your attempt; what would you want to try? Then, why not try? This can become your vision. And a vision is a powerful thing. Vision is what drives success and accomplishment. Just think of the great accomplishments of mankind and about what vision must have been behind them. So, what do you want to do in your life? What would you like to accomplish with your business or organization? Great things come when we dream, when we gain a vision of a better tomorrow. Vision drives us to attempt things far beyond where we are right now. Here is one of my favorite quotes from old Rough and Ready, Teddy Roosevelt. I hope it encourages you to stretch for greater things. “Far better it is to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs, though checkered by failure, than to rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy, nor suffer much, because they live in the gray twilight that knows neither victory nor defeat.”

I Will – The Arena of Dedication
They say that the three most important things in real estate are “location, location, location.” That may very well be true, but I have decided, after being involved in numerous start-up ventures (both for profit and non-profit) that the three most important things in work, especially during the start-up process, are “perseverance, perseverance, perseverance.” I have come to believe that much of what separates the successful from the unsuccessful is simply determination. The successful are not always the brightest, the best looking, or those with the most prestigious diplomas. Instead, they are the ones who say “I will do this!” and “Hardship will not deter me!” These people have entered into and continually live in the arena of dedication. Staying there long enough usually puts them on top. Dedication is a key to success. So far, we have had you determine your corporate values, and had you dream and think of the possibilities for your life, work, and organization. What now? Hard work! Once you and your staff have determined what your possibilities are, you should also spend some time to recognize all of the hard work that will be involved in achieving your dreams. Then spend some time preparing to meet the challenges. Here are some questions to help you get through the process, prepare yourself for the job ahead, and come out on the end of success.
What are the obstacles we will face?
How will we overcome those obstacles?
What kinds of attitudes and dedication will we need to exhibit when the time comes to face difficulties and up-hill battles?
What are the rewards our dedication will bring to us as individuals and corporately?
Focusing in on these questions will help you prepare for the times when you will need to show dedication, perseverance and inner fortitude. The mental preparation now will strengthen you to succeed later.

I Do – The Arena of Accomplishment
As we close this series, it is important to remember that these phases are all constantly rotating through different areas of our lives. In some areas we will be in the values formulating arena, others the dedication arena. And of course we will at times be in the accomplishment arena. It comes when the job is complete. What is important at this stage? Well, a few things actually.
A little rest.
Notice I said a “little.” It isn’t time to sit back for good, but resting can be a much-needed reward for all of the hard work you have shown up until now. After the pace of pursuing your dreams, your body and mind need some well– deserved rest.

A little celebration.
Celebrations are great for us. What is all the work for if one can’t enjoy the fruit of his labor? Maybe it is a small dinner out. Maybe it is a huge celebration like a party for a hundred of your closest friends and business associates. Maybe it is an exotic vacation?

A sense of fulfillment.
The greatest reward is, as the old saying goes, “the satisfaction of a job well done.” Not many people make it to the accomplishment arena very often. Enjoy the satisfaction!

A new high bar.
One of the great things about life is the challenge of new heights. You have accomplished your task, and that’s good, but…
Now, What’s Next?